There is a piece of advice that was given to Awkwafina, the renowned actor, by her grandmother that I think perfectly summarizes life in a nutshell. It goes like this,
“Life is a series of ups and downs. When you’re up the only way is down and when you’re down the only way is up.”
Truly, is this not what life is all about? It is a walk up and down a mountain. The down makes you want to find a source of control, so you do not get carried away and lose momentum, and the up requires you to put all your energy and pull through.
What To Do When You Are On This Rollercoaster?
In life, each of us has different struggles and they may coincide at several points. And because they coincide, we believe helping is the best way to lessen both of your struggles. But what you need to understand is that everyone has a different way of dealing with their ups and downs. Know when to help and when not to. What we all need to take away from this affair of life and its ups and downs is not to trivialize someone’s struggle or their way of dealing with it. You cannot help them by putting them down. Work together with them. As I said, know when to help. Learn from each other. Offer constructive criticism.
Seek And You Shall Find
How is it that we have an endless pool of resources that we extend to our friends and family but not to ourselves? Why are we so unkind to ourselves at times?
Well, self-love is a journey of its own and while we are on these dual journeys, keep on seeking the cause of your unhappiness and despair, if any, and remove it. How to do this, you ask?
Remember the clue about the Room of Requirement from the Harry Potter series,
“If you have to ask, you’ll never know, if you know you need only ask.”
Our soul is just like this room. It knows, and thus, you need only ask. Deep inside, you know what is troubling you. But still, if you are finding it troublesome to figure it out, take help. Talk it out or journal it. We can be best friends to ourselves more than anybody else. Once you get a hold of it, remove it, and cut it off from your life. Toxicity has no place in your life.
Do Not Be Deceived By Fear
For fear, everything is a game of chess and you are just a pawn. You need to know the truth as opposed to what fear makes you believe. And what fear makes you believe is a treacherous web of lies and inhibitions about yourself. To break free from this web is not easy. But remember to trust yourself. Remember to trust your mother. She knows it when she says you are the best. Trust your friends. As much as you banter, they know you pretty well. But most of all, trust yourself. Navigate and be the best sailor in this sea of life.
You will have a journey that will be distinguished. So, you will have to chart your own course. But that does not mean you are alone. You can always take help. Do not let your fears grip you. That jump from the comfort zone is going to be hard but it is going to take you far and off to better places.
The Blame Game
The blame game has never been healthy. It does not help anyone. You cannot blame yourself or others. I mean, you can but try not to. Move on from the blame game and focus on improving yourself, correcting your faults so that you can move up and up on the rollercoaster that is life.
Your journey, while distinguished, is not isolated. So, when you interact with other beings, real or imaginary, heal others. Heal yourself too. When pain gives you wounds, they need love and nourishment to heal. Heal on your speed. Love will always be the most effective healer. Always remember that.
On that note, let us embrace this thought and actualize it into reality:
“Let it rain on some days,Sanhita Baruah
Let yourself shiver on some cold nights,
So when it’s Spring you’ll know why it was all worth going through.”